Discussing Stimulus, Belief, Response.

Well it snowed for a few hours over one night and by the morning it was frozen hard. Hey it was beautiful while it lasted. A, my eldest, and I love to watch the snow falling. I feel full of gratitude to see it and for the warmth and safety of home.

This week I have gone over what stimulus and responses are and how they work. I think it is important for my children to know about, so they can be aware that whatever the stimuli, be it another child acting negatively towards them, they will still be in charge of what they think about it and therefor how they feel. It means they own their feelings, and know that no one can make them sad/angry/happy etc.

The two little ones enjoyed joining in. They know that a stimulus is anything, something they see, hear, taste, feel or think about. One way I played with the idea of responses and how each person may respond differently was by offering different stimuli. We sat together and I hid my face counted to 3. “Raah!” they both jumped back. We remarked on how they had responded for them to get the idea.

I once again hid my face and they waited eagerly to see what I would do next. This time I yawned, B yawned too and stretched, while M laughed. This was a good opportunity to show them that people have their individual responses even when they have the same stimulus.

I continued with different actions getting many different responses, sometimes they didn’t know they were reacting because they were still waiting for me to do something. Like when I said it was the last go. One was ready for another turn so was happy and one was not so happy because they didn’t want it to nearly be over.

We saw when we went to the safari park that people had different responses to the animals. Each had different favourites and when we went to walk with the goats while B and Max made friends with the petted them and asked to take them home some children were terrified of them. Same stimulus, different responses.

Next week I will be going over the stimulus belief response theory with them. We will be looking at how it is applied to their day.

Do you think your children would benefit from learning about how they can be in control of their feelings and reactions?

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